Pets

In the Serpentarium we have many people who identify with animals...We have a puppy and several kitties...I have been lucky enough to be able to tap into each of them in one way or another...

When the puppy was with me, she wasn't a puppy to me - our relationship focused on servitude and bottoming - so I can't share her perspective of how this term is defined for her....BUT I am currently involved with THREE friggin kitties! Luckily for them, I identify as a cat owner and part cat myself so we play well together....

One of these kitties is full time 247 live-in - my loving pet tiger, Will. His cat identity is not full time, as we have plenty of vanilla responsiblities that require him to work during the day, but when he gets home it's almost always in pet mode. From day one I defined PET in this relationship as a priority, as it was the intital jump into kink for him and something he obviously held in high esteem. [servitude and bottoming limits were also put in place at this point according to what each of us felt were the priority for each]

For us, I defined PET as Perfectly Entertaining Treat...His purpose is to do whatever it takes to keep me entertained and happy. Having a good deal of experience with newbies as my primary bottom relationship helped me to KNOW what I wanted in terms of entertainment and happiness.

His PET responsiblities include:

• First off he is a FUCKTOY. This means he is to be available for my sexual amusement at MY whim. Occassionally it means he doesn't get sex when he wants it and/or doesn't get to cum if I want to make it only about me.
• It delights me to have my coffee made and brought to me in the mornings before he goes to work. He handles this for me even if we stop to get coffee on a road trip. [He's also helped me with my diet by slowly weaning my sugar and creamer levels.]
• He must perform where ever and whenever I want. He hates to do stage, but accepts now that it is part of the gig so he better suck it up. [He never wanted to do Secret Lives of Women, yet he did!]
• He bottoms to me and ONLY me, unless I set up something different with a closely trusted dominant. He is my primary and my alpha boy - which includes the duty of topping any new additions to our pod [such as the other pets and the 'children' who pop in and out] and a whole 'nuther definition of my expectations of my primaries and AlphaBoy.
• Financially he is responsible for his debts that do not involve me - phone, storage, insurance etc - but is required to contribute money to the house hold expenses. The light bill is in his name, but the lease is in mine. I cover the majority of the expense and we hope to accrue a savings for him while he's with me to prepare for the day he choses to leave.
• In terms of chores around the house, I divide all work between those who live here with assistance from friends who come frequently and want to help by serving in some way. He helps me in any project I choose to take on. [I do hope to have a sissy maid on call at some point to take this burden off all our backs, but I am not actually looking too hard.]

His PET BEHAVIORS include:

• Meowing when he's hungry and/or horny. Each has their own sound and I have learned to tell the difference.
• When I am at my desk working and he wants attention, he crawls over to my desk and wiggles around by my feet just like a real cat. My response is to scratch under his chin, around his ears and basically snuggle him. IF I am too busy I might either use him as a foot stool OR I kick him away lightly.
• Like many real life kitties, he is an innate 'sleep drug'. If he calls me into the bedroom for a nap, it is damn hard to resist -- as I am well aware of how soundly he can get me to sleep. Just like a real kitty, he is so darn snuggly!
• He likes to bite. His favorite spots tickle the shit out of me, so this often ends up in rough play/wrestling. It's really like taking the tiger by the toe...He plays this way with the out of town kitty when she comes, as they are playmate switches with him granted top authority as per the agreement.

MY RESPONSIBILIES TO HIM:

• I provide a 'normal' homelife. I manage the household. I cook all the meals. I do the grocery shopping and bill paying.
• I pay attention to his sexual and maso needs and tend to them in creative ways. [I have definately learned more CBT tricks with this boy!]
• I help him learn about topping and provide dynamics where he can earn his stripes on experienced/well trained people.
• He has the golden ticket to all events I am involved with, often resulting in being treated like a rock star.
• I worship and adore him in kitty mode, plus the whole relationship/experience is built on a positive affirmation technique void of verbal abuse and emotional neglect so his growth is not only guided but also encouraged.
• I do NOT micro-manage his life, but it's pretty damn close. We discuss all things that go on in our lives and with our extended family as equals, but with my experience weighing in heavily and my final judgements accepted.
• I stand by his choices and help him choose things that will help rather than hurt him. This extends to business decisions to relationships with others. IF he even needs support for one of his friends I am here for him.

Now with the other two kitties, I have different dynamics. I am not the owner of either of them, nor truly is Will. They are two of the family members whom we have chosen to bring closer to us due to an affection for each. Both are free-range subs and have other play partners.
Outta town kitty is with both of us. Primarily she is Will's pet and learning bottom. With me its more of a dom/sub dynamic with pet appreciation mixed in. We love her very much and enjoy the abundant amount of time we have been spending with her lately. She is a big ball of energy and brings a ton of fun into our normally quiet lives.

Local kitty has recently found herself a new daddy. My relationship with her is more of a friend/mentor and less focused on the kitty stuff. I would liked to have tapped into it more, for she can be snuggly when she chooses to put her guard down, but now I am stepped off because she needs a chance to develop whatever it may be with him. I am fairly certain over time we will get back to it...

How can I have all these people somewhat in my POD? See, my polydynamic is set up to love multiple people at once [polyamorous] but without the entagements of multiple sexual relationships [polysexual]. Over the years I have learned that I prefer to maintain one primary relationship with my sole sexual partner, unless that partner is no longer able to perform sexually and is comfortable with me seeking that satisfaction elsewhere. I also learned that for me it is very possible for me to have a BDSM relationship with someone I am NOT having sex with. It gives me a level of distance that allows me to share the BDSM experience with more clarity and precision.

Pets are definately a dynamic I enjoy. Mine are perfectly entertaining treats that bring joy and amusement to my world. They are some of my closest friends and best source of energy. This is a power exchange I not only defined for myself, but also for the people involved before I took it on. If someone is inclined to take a pet on, I would recommend that they talk to other owners...just like if you were into AB, I would suggest you talk to a Mommy Dommy!!
Lv M