ALL PEOPLE SHOULD READ THIS

An important post for the LADIES [but men should read too] --

This is NOT an urban myth. This is a TRUE story written after the experience by a friend of mine in the West Coast. She felt it was embarassing but still a good life lesson for us all. As usual, with my email advice and such, my comments will be in [ ]'s and the original letter in italic....

i would very much like to vent but do not want to admit it was me. i feel so stupid and gross about the whole thing.

i didnt have any sex for a long time after the breakup, and eventually i did want to have some sex but it was completely, stupidly disastrous.

first of all, he didnt want to wear a condom. first red flag but i insisted and didnt want to stop, since he actually, reluctantly cooperated.

[Okay. We are all adults. Our community does teach us that using condoms should always be mandatory. MEN: If you will not comply - go home and jerk off because you are too selfish to fuck anyhow. LADIES: Free condoms are available through most OBYGN services such as Legacy and Planned Parenthood. GO GET THEM AND MAKE THEM USE THEM!]

the he bitched, not hot or romantic at all. still didnt want to waste a hard on, since i hadnt been near one in 3/4 months.

[Haven't we all been there at one time or another? MEN: whining is not sexy - ever! Knock the bitching off and just fucking comply!]

then we fucked a little and he didnt exactly stay hard, more bitching (from him) and when we stopped i thought he took the condom off. i thought i saw him to do just that but apparently he was simply fondling himself.

after a few minutes i playfully jumped on top of him, put a condom on him and had my way with him. little did my dumb ass know that he had left the first condom in me and i was now shoving it far up inside me complete with any fucking semen he may have left in it.

[Okay folks, this is just stupid. MEN if you don't know where the damn thing went ASK THE LADY TO CHECK HERSELF. I promise the embarassment is worth the outcome!! oh and PRECUM could be in there, so don't think if they didn't get off you are safe. YOU ARE NOT!]

how do i know this? because after 4 days i began to get a yeast infection and started the good old monostat 7. three days later the condom comes out, being lubricated by the monostat!!!

[Not only does this physically harm her, but it puts her trust into a new place in terms of random sexual encounters. This is suck.]

how disgusting. it made me physically ill, emotionally devistated that not only was he so fucking stupid as to think that fucking condoms disappear if they slip off your penis while inside a woman but that i was stupid enough to think he wasnt a moron.

[NO ONE wants to feel this shit. All it takes is consideration, communication and a little common sense -- which this man seems to completely lack!]

moral of the story, i will insist that every condom i ever use with anyone be placed in my hand after the act. fuck disease, the last fucking thing i need is to be pregnant! i just need to go get fixed.

MY REPLY:

To help you with your shame - let me share mine. Cock rings. One lost up inside me without me knowing for several hours. He knew one was missing but assumed it was in the bed. I go shopping. Something doesn't feel right. I go home and pee - plunk it goes in the toilet.

I figure it will be fine, but nope. The meanest nastiest case of pelvic inflamatory ever!! I go to my regular doctor who has known me since I was 12. Try telling a nurse who is very vanilla and young, that you lost a cock ring made of metal up in your cunny. So embarassing. When my doc walks in he giggles and says, "So was this a dildo or something?" And I have to retell the whole situation! One free humilation scene coming up!!

I'm fixed and fine. If you can find a government program to subsdise the cost, even better. I strongly recommend it, but only for ending any fear of late life preggers. Stupid condoms are still a stupid must. So is testing.

I will find a way to share this. Hope my story helps ease some of the pain.

Lv M