Just my two cents worth on Daddy/Princess dynamics

This one is for all those "little girls" looking for the "Daddy Doms"
Ladies,

At one time [about eight years ago now] I was trying to quell my inner child's need for a loving father figure by finding a Daddy/Princess relationship dynamic. I was in that place when I stumbled on my last hubby.

So desperate for this need to be filled, I was willing to set aside his lack of RT experience and hope he would learn and grow as our time together expanded. Of course this was just a dream. I have since learned that if the Dom is not motivated then it just won't happen no matter how many classes you get them, mentors you may find them or links to others you may provide.

Since I have had a few years to ponder where I went wrong [oh yes, dear readers, I can be wrong!], I have some suggestions for all the little girls who want to be spoiled princesses with strong Daddy's knees to sit on:

A. FIRST FOUR RULES OF THUMB:

1. How does he treat his own CHILDREN? [Esp. his daughters]

a. If he is an absentee father figure who doesn't treat his own biological children with love and support ON A DAILY BASIS WTF makes you think he will be different toward you just because LUST is involved? In the long run, he will be just as inadequate for your emotional needs too!

b. If his children live on site with him, how loving of a relationship do they have? How does he lead/treat his bloodline? If he can't manange his kids then how the hell does he plan to manage you?

c. If he doesn't have kids, how does he treat his pets? This can say a lot about a person too.

Think of it this way, folks: A parent has to take care of a child. When a bottom identifies child-like they often are looking for that "taken care of" feeling. If a man can't provide it for those built of his own sperm, then eventually he will not provide it for his precious baby girl....

2. If he starts out spoiling you with gifts and/or trips, how long do you honestly think his money will last? Before getting serious find out if he can dominate his bank account -- then you! A Dom who can't manage their money can only spoil you so rotten for so long!!

3. Does this man have impulse problems? While whimsical may be fun it can have some ugly ramifacations! A daddy should be able to look at the best way to take care of someone under them and more often then not this means not jumping on things too quickly just because they are shiney and new!!

4. Oh and DO talk to their Exs. Find out what didn't work. Even if its said with bitterness, you will know exactly what to watch for. [and yes I admit for most people this would be a problem. Tough shit. Buck up and do your fucking homework!]

Just my two cents worth...bottomline: avoid jumping too fast especially if something looks too good to be true...one person's most pleasing aesthetic is another's living nightmare...Rough lessons to learn on your own. Trust me; I know from experience. I just hope someone learns from my mistakes and saves themselves a huge amount of disappointment and hassle.

lv M