Yet Another fine example of how NOT to approach a FemDom

Seriously? Male Dominants? Me? No thanks.


As everyone knows I have tons of profiles online. I am up to about 15 right now. Some are on kinky sites -- some on vanilla. They all say the same things and all of it true.

What you may not know is occassionally I get emails from Male Dominants. If they are friends of mine, it is super cool. But then there are the types who advertise dominant and then write offering to serve me!

I feel sad for the women who believe them while hunting for a dom. Why don't these idiots at least list themselves as a switch?

Again, this conversation was UNPROVOKED. I had neither looked at his profile nor written to him. He started the conversations with:

help me with my fantasy

This is all he wrote. So I respond with:

Is this a command or a request? Eitherway...you could have said, "please." M

See, I don't like it when folks don't speak to me like I am a human being even online. His reply:

yes madam please help me

Big bad male dom. All of a sudden adding connotations but still vague. I hate these kind of communicators! So I reply with:

Now the next question is are you asking in terms of professionally or privately?

Seems logical. If I am giving advice on how to help with someone's fantasy, I am in work mode. If it is private advice, that is free. This is what he came back at this with:

I want a dom to rape me and fuck me

This guy is a dork. Rape doesn't concern giving permission. I know we could set up a get raped scene -- but as a former rape victim, this is a fantasy that hold no appeal to me. So I send him:

no thank you. M

Business may be business but to me rape is rape. And as a professional SEX is NEVER on the menu. I am a professional dominatrix not a whore. If you need a ProDom who is a whore, I have someone I will gladly pawn you off on. Just for asking me, I feel they deserve the psychosis that comes with her as punishment. [She may seem like a lovely girl - but the bitch got issues....fuck that...subscriptions...]

AND YET -- the idiot responds again! this time with:

come to waco and rape me turn your self on ride me till you orgasm feel free to pucn choke bite

So I AGAIN reply with:

no thank you. M

I am being polite. I chose to ignore him when he writes again:

I understand sorry to bother you no woman want to do this

A few days go by and then he drops me one of these today:

I would love to bbe your slave

What the fuck??? Is he so into this fantasy that he actually studders in his email? Has he not figured out that I will only waste my time on REAL people? Why the fuck is he forcing me to be mean to him? I decide to not let him get to me and give this final response -- before BLOCKING HIS DUMB ASS:

Then why misguide others by listing yourself as a dominant and not a switch?

I can be nice. I can be honest. I HATE fakers. I hate people to who LIE to others but even worse THEMSELVES.

I know other Femdoms get this kind of crap in their boxes too. For this I feel for my dear sisters in pain. I wish I could advise you on how to avoid it, but unfortunately there are plenty of these jerk-offs online. I respond to them just to be polite. I also hate for anyone to feel ignored before they deserve it.

While I may be the profile mistress, I still take the time to respond to each email I get. I may not respond to winks*, nudges* or whatever the flirt trick is for that site but if you email me, I will engage in conversation with you -- BECAUSE I HAVE FAITH IN NETWORKING. I know if I am nice then it will come back to me.

I wish everyone could learn this lesson. M

After completing this blog, I decided to send him an explaination of why his dumb ass is getting blocked:

This is the last letter you are going to get from me. I read your profile. I was kind to you. And yet you insisted on contacting me AFTER I TWICE told you NO THANK YOU. But congradulations! You have made my blog as yet another example of how NOT to approach a femdom!

A. Try writing in the about me box and LIST that you are looking to expand your poly house. You might find a new addtion if they know you are looking for one *although I don't personally believe you are dominant enough to run a house!

B. When writing to ANYONE you should learn the common courtesy of investing the three minutes it takes to actually start a conversation with nice introductions and explainations. IF YOU CAN'T COMMUNICATE LIKE A HUMAN BEING ONLINE HOW THE FUCK DO YOU THINK YOU WILL DO IT FOR YOUR SLAVES? *This is why you are too immature to be over anyone and need some schooling about the realities of being a Dominant with a polyhousehold!

C. Never tell a professional dominatrix you want to have sex with her or to have her fuck you. MOST of us don't care nor will be interested in taking you on as a client. IT IS JUST RUDE THAT SOMEONE ON A SITE LIKE THIS WOULD NOT KNOW THIS BASIC FACT. *And if you claim ignorance then you are just showing your ass! Again, if you really think you are ready for this lifestyle then why aren't you taking the time to actually learn about it?

I am blocking you. I just wanted you to ponder this information and pray some of it sinks into that thick skull that may host your mental capacties within. Although, I am betting it is just a hollow, shallow, void.

M