letter of explaination

this is the current letter I sent to our Attn'y General's office:

I wrote you a week ago about our current situation and have not seen a response. I am in URGENT need of your help...Just in case this is someone unfamilar with my case, I will give you the facts you should need to get caught up.

After 6 years of marriage and children, Mr. Robert Rudolph Groce Jr. and myself [Michelle Narum] divorced. I have custody of the kids. He was allowed the typical Wednesday, every-other-weekend and holidays in the custody arrangement. [We won't get into how poorly he kept up his end of the deal on just this aspect.] He was ordered to pay $450 a month total
in support for his son, J and daughter, A .

At many points Mr. Groce was in arrears. Additional funds were taken to suppliment this as time went on, and his employment remained at places who removed the amounts directly from his check; after I had to go to Human Resources for assistance in the forms of food stamps, AFDC and Medicade while I returned to college when our children were small. After obtaining my degree, I remarried.

During the six years of that marriage, Mr. Groce was fairly timely in his payments, but he still had periods of unemployment/cash only employment were he fell into arrears. Because of a false sense of security I had during that time period, I didn't have to depend on the money and did not take any real action against Mr. Groce. When I divorced my last husband, Mr. Kerry Rosenberry, it was immediately following his putting our family/business through bankruptacy. I had worked for his company during the marriage, so at its' demise, I was broke, homeless, and unemployed.

Robert being in arrears meant your office sent me his IRS refund for 2007. This caused a huge fight between my Ex and I, as he felt it was unfair. His mother later made him come to realize it was his own fault for dropping the ball on his kids. Knowing he had gone back into arrears in the past year, I was hoping the same thing would happen for 2008 and let him file for both our kids "earned income credit". I am self-employed and not making enough money to report at this time. We all hoped that money and his income booster check from the government would come during the summer.

Before that I had contacted your office about getting the cost of living increase that I should have got every three years but did not know to apply for. You sent me the paperwork. I contacted my local office about an in person meeting but the notification they promised me never arrived. When the childrens' father's life partner of the past twelve years died unexpectantly at 36 during March of this year, I gave up on the idea for a while out of sympathy for him.

I also let go of the income tax thing. But then my ex's payments become more sporatic. He blamed the accountant at Brittney Blake Interiors where he was last employed. I began getting more work for my business and needing the income had to focus on that before this child support issue.

That was until Robert died. It was a month after our eldest turned 18. We found out 3 days before her birthday that since he was an unmarried person she would be the one who controlled all decisions in regards to his medical treatment. He's spent the time from IKE until the week before Thanksgiving in Ben Taub intubated to breathe with pneumonia that he developed after entering for an extensively needed medical detox/rehab. [He'd gone jaundice while trying to quit cold turkey at home alone.]

During the time the doctors told the family that his liver had cirrosis and his kidneys were failing. It would be my daughter's choice when they would pull the plug - they did it Tuesday, November 18th and he died Wednesday at 4 am. To say the least this was VERY difficult to watch my kids go through.

See, my first husband was a hardcore drinker. That's why he wasn't a good father and the reason I divorced him to begin with. I am not judging him, but I have a ton of anger unsorted with him. I just am dumbfounded by his predictable death.

And I am left floundering. I have to now understand:
How to wrap my case with y'all but still get that IRS money?
How to get Social Security for my son who won't turn 18 for two years?
Is there any SS for my daughter while she is in college?
How to apply for FoodStamps and housing assistance without any written proof of income?

PLEASE HELP ME. I need it. Desperately,

Michelle Narum
PS I am going to attempt to book an appointment with my local agency reps to back this up, but they are not a walk-in welcome office and booking around what work I do have lined up is more imperative now then it has ever been before.